Disadvantages of dating someone smarter than you
It’s not technically the worst-case scenario, but dating someone smarter can open up the floodgates of a dam filled with repressed insecurity. If you have a low tolerance for annoying clever facts on a day-to-day basis, it won’t bode well for your relationship either. So, why is dating a person smarter than you not a good idea?
#1 They can be exasperating.This is basically the most well known complaint of people who are dating smarter people. Some smart people can be overconfident, stubborn and self-righteous. If you know how to handle these types, go ahead and enjoy your daily dose of existential love quarrels.
#2 They can be pushy.They see the potential in everyone. If they think you can do better, they will almost always do everything in their power to “motivate” you. This can sometimes come off as suffocating and can also instill a fear of disappointing your partner.
#3 They can get lost in their own world.Intelligent people have a tendency to space out more times than the average person. This can pose a problem in terms of communication. You may think that they’re ignoring you, but the truth is they are just thinking.
#4 Your priorities can clash.Although your careers are usually a separate subject, being smarter may mean that your partner has a more mentally challenging job. This can stress them out and make them disregard your needs in the process. Try to understand that they feel they need to prove themselves more because they assume that it is expected of them.
#5 You want to prove yourself to them for the wrong reasons.It’s akin to the situation of dating a supermodel. Although they loved you for being the average Joe or Jane that you are, you still can’t help but think that you should have harder abs or a better haircut. When dating a smart person, some people are determined to prove that they can be just as smart while forgetting who they are in the process.
#6 You can’t be smarter than they are.As I’ve mentioned above, the intelligence of a person cannot be judged easily. In a normal everyday situation, the person who is right is labeled as the smart one. If your partner is used to knowing everything all the time, they can take your being right as a slight to their intelligence. There’s nothing worse than seeing a loved one’s face after you proved them wrong using Google.
Smart or not, your partner is someone that you have to live or spend time with on a day-to-day basis. You have to appreciate them for the good things and understand them and help them out through the bad. Every relationship consists of two people who have their own talents, skills and attributes to add to the table.So smart or not, don’t feel threatened or overconfident by the highs and lows of dating someone smarter than you. Just because your partner has more IQ points than you do does not make you any less of a person, and more importantly, any less of a lover!
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