How to apologize for your wrongs.2


Further Strategies for Effective Apologies
In addition to the four steps above, keep the following in mind when you apologize.
Don’t Offer Excuses
During an apology, many people are tempted to explain their actions. This can be helpful, but explanations can often serve as excuses, and these can weaken your apology. Don’t shift part of the blame onto someone or something else in an attempt to reduce responsibility.
Here is an example of using excuses in an apology: “I’m sorry that I snapped at you when you came into my office yesterday. I had a lot on my plate, and my boss demanded my project report an hour earlier than planned.” In this case, you excuse your behavior because of stress, and you imply that the other person was at fault because he bothered you on a busy day. This makes you look weak.
A better approach is to say, “I’m sorry I snapped at you yesterday.” This is short and heartfelt, and it offers no excuses for your behavior.
Tip:
Make sure that you are fair to yourself when you make an apology. There is a fine balance between taking full responsibility and taking responsibility for too much.
Don’t Expect Instant Forgiveness
Keep in mind that the other person might not be ready to forgive you for what happened. Give that person time to heal, and don’t rush her through the process.
For example, after you make your apology, you could say, “I know that you might not be ready to forgive me, and I understand how that feels. I simply wanted to say how sorry I am. I’ll give you plenty of time to see that I’m changing my behavior.”
Be Aware of Legal Ramifications
Bear in mind that the law in some countries and regions may interpret an apology as an admission of liability or guilt.
Before you apologize on behalf of your organization, you may want to speak with your boss, or get further advice from a legal professional. However, don’t use this as an excuse not to apologize, unless the risk is significant.
Tip 1:
Be gracious and fair when you receive an apology. If you respond with aggression or self-righteousness, you may lose the respect of the person who apologized, as well as the respect of the people around you.
Tip 2:
Don’t demand an apology from someone else. They may well refuse, and you can easily end up in an angry, unproductive standoff.
Key Points
An apology is a statement of remorse that you make when you’ve done something wrong. It can be difficult to apologize, but it can do a lot to heal relationships and rebuild trust.
Follow these steps when you make an apology:
1.Express remorse.
2.Admit responsibility.
3.Make amends.
4.Promise that it won’t happen again.
Don’t offer excuses when you apologize. Otherwise, you’ll sound as if you’re trying to shift blame away from yourself and on to someone or something else.
http://www.mindtools.com/pages/article/how-to-apologize.htm

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