From time to time in a relationship, you may notice that your boyfriend is behaving differently. There could be a number of reasons why this may be happening, but one explanation for his strange behavior may be the fact that he’s got a crush on someone.
Of course, there are instances when having a crush is harmless. One of those instances is when your man is crushing on a movie star or a Victoria’s Secret model. But when his eyes alight on someone who could possibly reciprocate his feelings, that’s when trouble can start to brew.
With the possibility of another woman snatching up your man, that crush can turn into a flame. Then you might end up losing your man, and who wants that? Luckily, there are some signs that are definite giveaways that your man is getting the hots for somebody else. Once you learn them, you can use this knowledge to your advantage, as you try to see if your man might be considering cheating on you. [Read: The 3 big reasons men cheat and 27 silly ones too! ]
How to tell if your guy likes another woman
You definitely want to look out for these signs, as they will tell you if your guy is just good friends with a girl, or if he’s got a genuine crush on her.
#1 He is giving another woman a lot of attention. This is one of the most obvious signs. If you frequently see him chatting to Susan, the attractive and fit neighbor, it could definitely mean that he is interested in her. Unless there is a direct reason for your boyfriend to be chatting with the same hot female on a regular basis, the chances are that he is intentionally making the time to talk to her.
#2 He doesn’t want you to see his phone. Not wanting you to see his phone could easily mean that he has spicy material on there that he doesn’t want you to discover. Has he been texting the attractive girl he met at the gym, has he been calling an old lover? Who knows? Definitely not you, because he won’t ever let you near his phone, and hence the justification for suspicion. [Read: Why would a guy with a girlfriend want another girl’s attention?
#3 He is overly jumpy. Perhaps he has a crush on someone, and he is nervous that you will find out. This could definitely put him on edge. So if he jumps like a Mexican jumping bean every time you mention something even remotely connected to his crush, he could quite possibly be hiding some emotions he has for a certain woman in his life who is not you.
#4 He makes less eye contact with you. If he has feelings for someone else, he may be experiencing guilt. That guilt may be preventing him from making proper eye contact with you. In this circumstance, he probably doesn’t want you to bore deep into his soul with your eyes and purge the information out of him. If he starts rocking sunglasses more in your presence, it may be a further, though silly, effort to avoid eye contact.
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#5 You catch him checking out the same girl over and over. It may be a mutual friend that you both have, or a pretty barista, or maybe even his physical therapist. But whatever the case, if you frequently see him checking her out, whether in person or on social media, it could definitely be more than an innocent look in her direction.
#6 He seems less into you. This sign may present as a general feeling that he just isn’t as passionate about you as he once was. You may not be able to pin it to any specific conversations or events, but you may feel that his romantic energy is just not coming your way as much as it used to.
This could definitely mean that it is going somewhere else. Side note, it may be time to bust out some scandalous outfits to get that attention coming right back in your direction!
#7 He is overly defensive. If your boyfriend is having mood swings that resemble a male period, it could be because he is emotionally frustrated since he likes someone else. In this circumstance, not only does he have to repress his desire, but he also has conceal it from you.
All of that emotional constipation can take its toll, and it might lead to random hissy fits. Combine his frustration, a dash or guilt and the tension of hiding his crush from you, and you’ve got the complete recipe for a guy who might suddenly explode over the smallest things. [Read: 9 ways men manipulate and trick their girlfriends into believing them
#8 He gives slight signs of physical affection to the same girl over and over. Examples of this may include putting his hand on her back as he lets her walk through the door, or using any excuse to touch her, such as driving a point home in the conversation with a gentle touch of the arm.
If you notice that he does this more with one girl than he does with any other girl, or even with you, then it can definitely be a red flag. Helpful hint – this may be the perfect time to set that woman up with your friend John, the handsome banker who is looking for a new girlfriend.
Setting her up with your friend can do two things: One, your guy may lose interest in her since she’s interested in someone else. And two, it might clue him in to the fact that you’re on to him. [Read: 15 obvious signs of flirting between a guy and a girl]
#9 He makes revealing Freudian slips. If you suspect that your man has a crush on your friend Sarah, and he accidentally asks if you had “buns” with Sarah when you were out with her, instead of if you had “fun” with her, this can be a giveaway. Sometimes, it is simply impossible to censor all of your speech properly. You can use this fact to gain insight. [Read: 10 things emotional cheating can do to your relationship ]
#10 You just have a sneaking suspicion that he is becoming more interested in someone else. Sometimes, our intuition can pick up on things that our rational brains cannot. So, if for some reason, you are suddenly starting to suspect that he is developing feelings for someone else, you could be correct.
Be careful how you approach this though, because if you have no evidence and you accuse him of being in love with someone else, this could go over poorly.
At times, it can be difficult to tell whether or not your boyfriend or husband has a crush on someone else. There is also a major difference between a crush, and a simple opinion that he thinks a particular woman is attractive.
After all, there are probably many men whom you think are attractive. That doesn’t necessarily mean that you have a crush on them. A crush means that someone really, really likes another person, and could potentially be interested in dating them.