Have you ever heard of the term emotional maturity? Well it exists!do you want to know if your partner is mature emotionally? As for the signs of emotional maturity just read on!.
- Emotionally intelligent people pay attention
to what they are feeling.
Psychologist and author Daniel Goleman
identifies self-awareness as one of the key
components of emotional intelligence . Self-
awareness involves the ability to recognize
moods, emotions, and feelings. Part of self-
awareness also involves being aware of how
your emotions and moods influence other
people. This ability to monitor your own
emotional states is a basic requirement for
- They understand how other people feel.
Empathy is another of Goleman’s major
elements of emotional intelligence.
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This involves the ability to understand the
emotions of other people. In order to interact
with other people in multiple life domains,
such as at work or at school, you need to be
able to know what they are feeling. If a co-
worker is upset or frustrated, knowing what he
is feeling can give you a much better idea of
how to respond.
- They are able to regulate their emotions.
Self-regulation is absolutely central to
emotional intelligence. Understanding your
emotions is great, but not particularly useful if
you cannot make use of this knowledge.
Emotionally intelligent people think before
they act on their feelings. They are in tune
with how they feel, but they do not let their
emotions rule their lives.
- They are motivated.
Emotionally intelligent people are motivated
to achieve their goals and capable of
managing their behaviors and feelings in order
to achieve long-term success. They might be
nervous about making a change in their lives,
but they know that managing this fear is
important. By taking a leap and making the
change, they know that they might make their
lives better and come one step closer to
attaining their goals.
- They have great social skills
Emotionally intelligent people also tend to
have strong social skills, probably in part
because they are so attuned to their own
feelings as well as those of others. They know
how to deal with people effectively, and they
are invested in maintaining healthy social
relationships and helping those around them
- They are willing and able to discuss feelings
Sometimes people are empathetic and in tune
with their emotions, but struggle to actually
share these feelings with others. Emotionally
intelligent people not only understand
feelings, they know how to express them
What exactly do we mean by appropriately ?
Imagine, for example, that you just had a
particularly awful day at work. You are tired,
frustrated, and angry about how things went
at an important meeting. An inappropriate
expression of your feelings might involve
coming home and getting into an argument
with your spouse or sending a nasty email to
your boss. A more appropriate emotional
reaction would be discussing your frustrations
with your spouse, releasing some tension by
going for a jog, and coming up with a plan to
make the next day better than the one before.
- They are able to correctly identify the
underlying causes of their emotions.
Imagine that you find yourself getting
frustrated and angry with a co-worker. As you
assess your feelings, analyze what you’re
really upset about. Are you mad about your
co-worker’s actions, or does your anger stem
from underlying frustrations and pressure from
a boss who has heaped too much work and
responsibility on your shoulders? Emotionally
intelligent people are able to look at the
situation and correctly identify the true source
of their feelings.
At first this might seem like an easy task, but
the reality is that our emotional lives can be
both complicated and messy. Locating the
exact source of your feelings can be
particularly tricky when you are dealing with
powerful emotions such as love and anger.
Are you emotionally intelligent?