If I Take A Bullet For You…

If i take a bullet for you will you be there to push the wheel chair for me?


If i take a bullet for you will you be there to push the wheel chair for me?

If i take a bullet for you will you be there to push the wheel chair for me?

and then the great question came…
can you take a bullet for your friends?
at first i smiled then i remembered something
and frowned.
i dont have any problem with taking bullets
for someone i consider to be a “close” friend
especially if i’m indebted to you because an
aquarius is one of the most ” Selfless,
altruistic , Loyal And Most Honest Person”
That You Will Ever Meet Especially If They
Like,love,Trust Or respect You But If I Take A
Bullet For You,will You Be There To Push The
Wheelchair For Me When The Going Gets
Tough?
.
naturally humans have a trait of a
ungratefulness subconsciously hardwired into
their dna which can only be changed by Christ
or discipline but should it stop us from doing
good? No!.
A Woman Once Donated One Of Her Kidneys
To Save Her Boss Who Later Fired Her
Because She Took Too Long To Recover.
.
a blind girl once had a faithful boyfriend that
was taking care of her. though she was happy
she had only one wish,if only she could see to
appreciate her boyfriend for standing by
her.one day a letter came in that some has
donated his pair of eyes for her and off to the
surgery they went. after the surgery she could
see and she turned around eagerly to see her
boyfriend only to discover that he was blind. i
cant date or marry you she replied,you are not
in my class and i dont ever want to see you
ever again,i’m too beautiful for a blind boy
like you and she ordered the nurses to walk
out the stupid blind boy that was already
shedding tears.
days later one of the nurses handed a note to
her,it was a letter from the blind boy and it
read “my dear ,i donated my only pair of eyes
for you to see.take good care of the eyes for
me.my only happiness is that your wish has
been fulfilled and you can now see”.
.
life is nothing ,dont waste your time trying to
impress someone or trying to be a hero cause
many of the people that you think that they
cant live without you actually can! once you
die! life goes on.
few months back a woman lost her only
son.the whole community cried like the world
was about to end,even i God’spower Excellence
couldnt help shedding tears.the sisters wanted
to jump into the grave where they called on
death to come and take them too since it
couldnt spare their only brother if not for
people that restrained them.
right there on the grave yard one of the grave
diggers cracked a joke and one of the sister
didnt know when she bursted into a laugh. life
has gone on,life goes on .
.
a boy was ashamed of his mum and denied
her several times before friends.it was
because his mother had only one eye and
some parts of her skin were disfigured by a
fire incident. he finished school ,went to the
city ,got a job ,married and never came back
home. one day he received a letter that said
that his mum was dead and he came home. it
was there that he learnt that many years
ago,there was a fire incident that killed his
father ,his mother escaped but bravely ran
back into the burning building when she
remembered that her crying little son was still
inside the building and that was where her eye
and skin became disfigured by the fire.it was
too late to apologize to mum.
.
a boy used to make fun of one crippled man
in his village with his fellow schoolboys. the
man never responded to their insults. one day
the boy came back from school and was
suprised to to see his mum discussing and
chatting happily with the cripple ,and he left
the boy met his mum and asked “mum what
were you doing with that stupid dirty cripple ?
and the mom
replied “my son,that crippled man is the
reason you are alive today,many years ago as
a toddler you were playing near our village
river the river currents came and took you
away. a crocodile came at full speed to eat
you before that man you were insulting
jumped in to save you ,he later escaped too
but not before the crocodile chumped off a
huge part of one of his legs. he was too poor
to go to a proper hospital to treat himself and
i was too poor to help him for risking his life
to save my son and that was how he became
a cripple.
.
if i’m willing to take a bullet for you, will you
be there to push the wheelchair for me when
then going gets tough???
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true story: love is blind


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Someone sent this love story to me and I felt like sharing it here on handsomebeauty. Indeed true love is blind to faults and it is hard to find .
💖

A man married a beautiful girl. He loved her very much. One day she developed a skin disease. Slowly she started to lose her beauty. It so happened that one day her husband left for a tour.
While returning he met with an accident and lost his eyesight. However their married life continued as usual. But as days passed she lost her beauty gradually. Blind husband did not know this and there was not any difference in their married life. He continued to love her and she also loved him very much.
One day she died. Her death brought him great sorrow.
He finished all her last rites and wanted to leave that town.
A man from behind called and said, now how will you be able to walk all alone? All these days your wife used to help you.
He replied, I am not blind. I was acting, because if she knew l could see her ugliness it would have pained her more than her disease. So I pretended to be blind. She was a very good wife. I only wanted to keep her happy.
Moral:- Some times it is good for us to act blind and ignore one another’s short comings, in order to be happy
No matter how many times the teeth bite the tongue, they still stay together in one mouth. That’s the spirit of FORGIVENESS. Even though the eyes don’t see each other, they see things together, blink simultaneously and cry together. That’s UNITY.” May the Lord grant us all the spirit of forgiveness and togetherness.
1. ”Alone I can ‘Say’ but together we can ‘talk’.
2. “Alone I can ‘Enjoy’ but together we can celebrate
3. ‘Alone I can ‘Smile’ but together we can ‘Laugh’.
That’s the BEAUTY of Human Relations. We are nothing without each other
The razor blade is sharp but can’t cut a tree; the axe is strong but can’t cut the hair.
MORALS; *Everyone is important according to his/her unique purpose,Never look down on anyone unless you are admiring their shoes
Share to educate someone.

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#handsomebeauty : making the world a better place.💖💝

I want to poison my husband


   I want to poison my husband
POISON FOR HUSBAND*
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Last month my neighbour went to complain to her mother!
Daughter: Mom, I can not stand my husband. I want to kill him but I don’t have the courage to do it, Can you help me?please!
Mother: Yes my daughter, I can. But there is a small problem . You will be forced to make peace with him first so that none will suspect you for his death. You are going to be so much good and kind to him, take care of him.
Be romantic, grateful, patient, loving, submissive to him. See him as your kid not your mate or subject… be less selfish, more just, more listening to him, take all the rubbish from him, don’t nag or criticize him.
My daughter, I know you can do it, so don’t doubt yourself. Work starts this evening. Can you ?
Daughter: Yes mom.
Mother: Ok, it’s …. Well take this white powder which is the substance to kill him. Every day, you’ll pour a bit in his food and he will die slowly.
After 30 days, daughter returned to give feedback to her mother.
Daughter: Mom, I really no longer want to kill my husband again. He is soo romantic, loving and caring person. Now I like him, he’s changed and became softer than before. What can I do to prevent the poison?
Mother: Hahahahahaha
Daughter: Why are you laughing? Is it too late to save my husband’s life?
Mother: No, my dear!. You don’t have to worry. What I gave to you was cassava flour. He will not die.
In reality, it is in you that the poison was. When you fuel hatred and resentment in you, it kills slowly even more than a poison, so I have to work on you instead of your husband.
Daughter: Hmmmmmm. Thank you, sweetest mum.
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✍ T I P S
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☛Make yourself Happy and make others around you happy.
☛When you start to love and cherish your
husband, wife, brother, sister, son, daughter,
mother and father, you will see the sweetness in them.
☛Don’t wait for the person to be sick or die before you accept, cherish and celebrate people around you.

The seduction : a love story


  The seduction : a love story

men be wise n beware of she devils # she had longed for him, a longing that reminded her of those intimate moments they used to have behind the school’s dinning hall, a longing that fizzled when she gained admission into the university. Dozie was her first love but her memories of him did fade over the years. Her various university boyfriends did not let her keep her promise of loving him forever. She had changed her sim card severally and did not deem it necessary to keep in touch with him. The distance between them also watered down the feelings she had for him.

Now, those feelings did rush back. Dozie was standing before her, staring at her. His look did not hide his surprise.
“Where the hell have you been?” He asked, his gaze still on her. She was still beautiful, her eyes still large with childish curiosity.
“I’ve been moving to and fro, but not like Satan.” She chuckled. Dozie realised she hasn’t lost her sense of humor.
“Oh! I see!” He was laughing now.
She held him and they crossed the road to the nearest restaurant. He just followed, his mouth lacking what to say. Chidinma always led the way. She hadn’t lost that trait either. They found a seat at the far end of the restaurant and sat down. She ordered some drinks.
“So what are you doing in Lagos?” She quizzed as she sipped her drink quietly. She studied him from the corner of her eyes. Dozie was still that handsome guy she fell for. His beards accentuated his good looks.
“I came for a conference in Atlantic Centre, Laque. It’s scheduled for tomorrow.”
“So you already have a place to stay?” Her eyes searched him, wanting him to give an answer she silently wanted to hear.
“Yes…I just booked a room in Languese hotel before I bumped into you.”
“Oh!” She took another sip, a look of disappointment sweeping across her face, a look Dozie pretended not to notice. Silence slowly crept between them. Chidinma cleared her throat, her mind arranging her next speech.
“I know I disappeared from what we had without a trace but I can explain,” she said after a while but she knew she had no valid explanation. Life as a new student had swept her off her feet and that feeling overwhelmed every feeling she has ever had, even for Dozie. University boys did not give her any breathing space. It was a common practice for these boys to flock around new female students especially the beautiful ones. Some of these students were naive and easily fell prey to the sugar coated promises of love from various casanovas. Chidinma was not left out. She was carried away by the numerous attention she received from those boys.
“Dozie,I sincerely apologise for cutting you off but it was never intensional. I hope you find a place in your heart to forgive me.” She paused. She had just noticed the gold plated ring he wore.
“Is that a wedding ring?” She asked, trying hard to maintain her composure.
He looked at his fingers.
“Yes? Any problem with that?” He asked, observing her quietly.
“Are you married?” She didn’t hide her disdain.
He nodded. She took a deep breath. There was a protracted silence between them, a silence that spoke of what could have been.
“Her name is Amara.” He said with a distant look. “Chidinma, there isn’t much to talk about. I loved you but I’m in love now.” He paused but decided to stop.
“OK. I get. There is no “us” anymore. I get.” She said meditatively. Dozie looked away. Waves of emotion were flooding into his heart, emotions he thought were dead and buried.
“I’ve got to go.” He stood up suddenly. “I’ve got a lot to do before tomorrow’s conference.”
Chidinma looked at him and smiled, a knowing kind of smile, a smile that made real the Dozie of ten years ago. He was still the “little talk” kind of guy, a guy who didn’t waste time on talks that he knew would lead no where.
“OK.” She stood up and brought out a complimentary card. “Feel free to call me if you need any assistance in Lagos.” She paused and swallowed hard. “You’ll always be my first love.” She said solemnly, forcing a smile.
“Thank you.” Dozie said curtly while avoiding her eyes. He collected the platic card from her and studied it briefly. There was a tensed silence between them, a silence that understood a lot hasn’t been said.
Dozie hurried away. Chidinma stood, her eyes staring at the departing figure of a man who used to be head over heels in love with her.
Few minutes later, Dozie got to the hotel room he had booked. He opened the door and took a deep breath as he settled down on a chair. His heart was heavy. He didn’t want to understand why. He began to unbuttoned his shirt as he forced himself to focus, to focus on his family, a family he has grown to love and was determined not to betray.
His phone rang. It was Amara, his wife. He put the phone on loud speaker.
“Di m, keekwa nu.” He could hear her sonorous voice across the room. It calmed him, a kind of calm he knew he needed.
“I’m fine, Sweety.” He replied slowly and proceeded to tell her about his preparation for the conference. He also told her about Chidinma. He could feel the fear in her voice now.
“Please, be careful and return to me unscathed,” she said. Her voice was mellow.
“Nne m. I will. I love you,” he said.
“I love you too.”
He ended the call and laid on the neatly made bed, his mind drifting from Chidinma to Amara and Amara to Chidinma. Sleep has eluded him. He didn’t want to know why.
A knock brought him back to reality, a knock that nearly rocked his world.
He stood up, approached the door and held the handle of the door for a while.
“Who’s there?” He asked as he buttoned up his shirt.
“Room service.” He heard a voice say. It could be the waitress he had met down stairs, he thought. He had placed some orders earlier. He took a deep breathe and slowly opened the door. He was stunned for a moment. Chidinma was standing before him, her eyes pleading impatiently.
“How did you get in here?” He managed to ask. She was putting on a see-through top, a top she wasn’t putting on when he bumped into her earlier that day.
She didn’t say a word. She simply walked pass him into the dimly lit room.
“Chidinma, you’re not supposed to be here.” His voice was low, like he was afraid to speak.
“So what if I’m here! So what?” She said and burst into tears. “I can’t believe this is how you want to treat me after all we’ve shared! You amaze me, Dozie! You really do!”
Dozie stood, his mind blank on what to do or say. He wanted to comfort her but on a second thought, decided it wasn’t a wise idea. He spoke up but found himself stammering after few words.
‘I have done nothing wrong, Chidinma. You…you… disappeared without a trace. For heaven’s sake, what am I supposed to do? Wait till thy kingdom come? Come on! I sincerely do not know what you want from me.” He looked confused and weary.
Chidinma looked up with her tear stained face.
“Dozie, I’m still I’m love with you. That’s why I came looking for you. I can’t let you go for the second time. I can’t make that mistake again. I know you love me too. I can feel it. I know it. Dozie, please give us another chance. Don’t tell me you want to throw away all we’ve shared because you’re married.” She paused as more tears streamed down her face. “You aren’t the only man who is married, Dozie. Please, give me a chance to make it up to you, to bring back those good old days.” She was drawing closer to him. “I know I’ve hurt you. My conscience hadn’t known peace since I let you go. I want to make it up to you. I want you to forgive me. I want you to prove to me that you no longer hold any ill against me.” More tears streamed down her face now. There was silence between them, a silence that threatened the strength of Dozie.
“I care about my family, Chidinma. I can’t do this great wickedness against my wife.” He paused. He could feel his heartbeats. “How else can I prove to you that I’ve forgiven you? His else can I prove to you that I’ve moved on, that I no longer hold any grudge against you. How else?” His defences were breaking down and he knew it. Chidinma was facing him now, her chest heaving and screaming “take me” at the same time. There was something enticing about her, an enticing familiarity he understood.
“Then make love to me,” she said suddenly, her eyes fixed on him. “Make love to me, Dozie. Take me in your arms the way you used to do. Let’s bring back yesterday. You want me. I see it in your eyes.” She began to take off her dress slowly.
Dozie stood, his heart pounding, his desire slowly suppressing his will to fight for his marital vows. He has never cheated on his wife but he wondered how possible it was to continue to be faithful now.
“Dozie, take me. I’m all yours tonight. Take me. No one will know, not even your wife.” She began to caress his arms, her eyes still fixed on him, her desire consuming the atmosphere in the dimly lit room.
Memories of yesterday became real again. The nostalgia that was birthed from these memories made him begin to bask in the pleasure Chidinma was offering him.
As if bitten by a bee, he drew back suddenly, creating a huge distance that separated him from Chidinma. He was sweating profusely. His loud breath was in synchrony with his heaving chest.
“Put on your clothes and leave my room now!” The tone of his voice was deep and mean.
“What?” She said, not believing her eyes. She had not expected that reaction. No man has ever resisted her seduction.
“You heard me right.” He said, his eyes were blood shot now.
“OK! ” Chidinma said irritably. She began to put on her cloth quickly. “Fine! If that’s what you want,you loser!”
“Get out!” He was almost screaming. The word ‘loser’ has gotten to him.
Chidinma took another look at him, hissed and walked towards the door.
“You’ll come begging for this soon,” she said, pointing at her crotch. She hissed again, opened the door and hurriedly walked away.
Since her last visit to Dr. Nduka’s office three years ago, it has become her hobby to sleep around. Dozie has not only escaped her trap, he has also shielded his home from her disease. Chidinma was HIV positive. Like a furious harmattan wind spreading dust and dirt everywhere, she has spread this dreaded virus to anyone who fell prey to her seductive whims.
Written by Omokaro Akpesiri Precious Oruo.

Top 5 silly reasons guys use to break up with a girl before Valentine


 Top 5 silly reasons guys use to break up with a girl before Valentine ,  silly break up reasons guys girls Valentine

Guys can be very funny creatures sometimes especially Nigerian guys .when they are trying to woo or win a girl’s heart they will tell you that they love you more than their own mother . You will hear silly sugarcoated words like

  • I love you more than my mother.
  • you are the sugar in my tea.

  • i cant live without you.

  • Baby if you say no to me i will kill myself because life without you is not worth living.

  • you are the oxygen in my atmosphere , the most beautiful damsel in the whole world.

    some guys even borrow to impress and win a girl’s heart and they will even promise to ” buy heaven & earth for the lady”. Hmmm I wonder where the rest of us are going to stay when you buy the whole space for her. I even heard one guy telling a girl that he will “Build a bridge where there is no river for her” and she believed him. Indeed women are moved by what they hear ,it doesn’t matter whether you are lying or saying the truth and that is why most guys choose to lie to their girlfriends. Well Valentine is in the air again ! ,a time of showing love to your loved ones ( not immoral love ! ) . This is a time when guys look for silly reasons to break up with their girlfriends especially players with multiple girlfriends.
    There are multiple reasons why guys break up with their lovers during Valentine. It may be due to

  • lack of money

  • lack of a sense of responsibility.

  • absence of love

  • desire to break up with current girl friend so that they will be free to mingle with new ones during the Valentine period.

    • Genuine reasons e.g incompatibility of the two lovers, bad character of the girl.

Top 5 Silly break up lines include

1) 16 missed calls? you have killed my battery
so you are capable of killing me
it over!!

2) you dont even have respect am talking and
you are busy breathing
it over!!

3) i told you i like my food hot and you didn’t
warm the ice cream…
it over!!

4) i called you by 11:59pm and you didnt pick
then you decide to call me by 12:05am..why
did you wait till the next day..you are not
caring
it over!!

5) I told you to boil one egg and fry the other
one. You went ahead to fry the wrong one. It’s
over.

Other silly Valentine break up lines include

  • i call you darling and you call me honey..so
    you mean my mother is a bee…you lack
    respect for inlaws
    it over!!
  • why did you serve my food with red plate
    when you know am a chelsea fan…enemy of
    progress
    it over!!

  • how can you be watching the television with
    the volume on…do you want to finish the
    subcription
    it over!!
    i called you and you picked immediately…you
    lack patience
    it over!!

I told you to call my airtel line. You went to call
My Mtn line. You want FBi to track me? It is
over!

  • Look at how you made holes all over my
    compound with your koi-koi shoe.That means
    You can destroy my property ….Its over

feel free to add yours in the comment box below , let the fun continue

Written by God’spower Excellence.

Double dating in relationships


 double dating relationships
Double dating is not a sign that you are
handsome, beautiful, gifted or great, its a
sign of irresponsibility!
A responsible person is faithful to someone
he/she loves for the rest of his/her life!
Don’t be carried away by that sugar coated
mouth! It is not all that glitter that’s gold!
Has God given you someone? Is he/she a
child of God? Does he/she fear God? Start
building your relationship!
Anyone who is madly in love with two
people at the same time is never in love!
He/she just is in infatuation! In fact he/she
needs a deliverance! The test of true love is
“FOCUS”
True Love is focused on only one person.
An infatuated individual may be “in love”
with two or more persons simultaneously!
If you don’t know the difference between
LOVE AND INFATUATION, you will destroy
others’ lives and your own! That’s why
psychiatric hospital is full with people
whose hearts are broken! Some have
committed suicide, some never believe in
love again and some have made up their
mind never to trust anyone again or get
married! This is serious ! Stop toying with
people’ emotion!
Don’t double date no matter the pressure!
That’s, don’t be involved in two relationship
at the same time. Many singles have
missed their miracles because of this act of
unfaithfulness! Double dating lowers your
integrity and lays a wrong foundation for
your marriage. Avoid it!
Dezmondmfon Efretuei

7 IMPORTANT LIFE LESSONS THAT a YOUNG GIRL learnt after she broke up with her EX


   7 IMPORTANT LIFE LESSONS THAT a YOUNG GIRL learnt after she broke up with her EX
1. One of the LESSONS i learnt from the relationship where i broke up with my Ex is that Nothing is permanent.
No matter how madly in love
you are, it is possible that one of
you will decide to leave.So its good to be prepared in life all the time knowing that anything can happen the next minute.
Thus, be careful when you make
future plans.
Read also : relationship advice from a mother to her teenage daughter
2. Another important life lesson that i learnt after breaking up with my ex is that There are other things in life
than a break
up. After a break up life may look so meaningless and hopeless up to the point that some people end up committing suicide or giving up but dear it is not the end of the world, there are other things worse than a break up with an Ex Girlfriend or boyfriend. Be strong and you will get over it soon.
Read also : WHY YOU SHOULDN’T GIVE UP WHEN ALL
YOUR AGEMATES HAVE GOTTEN MARRIED

   7 IMPORTANT LIFE LESSONS THAT a YOUNG GIRL learnt after she broke up with her EX
Read also : LIST OF MOST IMPORTANT QUALITIES THAT
WOMEN CONSIDER ATTRACTIVE IN MEN
ESPECIALLY IN RELATIONSHIPS

  1. The third important life lesson is that Sometimes, letting go of your
    relationship is the best thing you
    can do.
    Because if you are holding on to
    a sour relationship, you are
    stopping both of you from
    moving on to better things and
    people.
       7 IMPORTANT LIFE LESSONS THAT a YOUNG GIRL learnt after she broke up with her EX
  2. Another important life LESSON i learnt when i broke up with my ex is that relationships fail most of the Times because one of the partners makes no effort to change or improve a negative trait or character,@ some point you have to
    step outside your comfort zone
    to make things work.
    If you want them to stay, you
    need to change some things
    about yourself and make
    genuine efforts. That’s a life
    lesson!
    .
    Read also : LIST OF MOST IMPORTANT QUALITIES THAT
    WOMEN CONSIDER ATTRACTIVE IN MEN
    ESPECIALLY IN RELATIONSHIPS

    5.Be with someone who
    accepts you for who you are or you will live to regret when a breakup results due to incompatibility.
    .

  3. Don’t involve family unless
    you are sure about her or she’s
    sure about you.
    It is a bad – bad idea. It can make
    things worse.
    .

  4. Social media: can be dangerous, be careful the kind of things you post, beware of people that ask for your naked or naked pics and photos or sex videos, don’t fall prey all in the name of love. Some marriages break up due to the mistakes that coupes made on facebook in their early life so beware.

Photos of paulo and Katyucia the shortest couple in the world


   Photos of paulo and Katyucia the shortest  couple in the world
The name of the smallest couple in the world is mr paulo gabriel da Silva Barros while the name of his female counterpart is Katyucia Hoshino.

Read also : ADVANTAGES OF SETTING SHORT TERM
GOALS

   Photos of paulo and Katyucia the shortest  couple in the world
Each of them measures less than 3ft
are in content in for being named the world’s
SMALLEST twosome.
Petite Paulo Gabriel da Silva Barros and tiny
Katyucia Hoshino both have forms of
dwarfism.
      Photos of paulo and Katyucia the shortest  couple in the world
Read also : SHORTEST CELEBRITY MARRIAGES IN
HISTORY PART.1

     Photos of paulo and Katyucia the shortest  couple in the world
Paulo, 30, who has diastrophic dysplasia
dwarfism, drives a specially adapted car and
works as a legal secretary.
He even has ambitions to run for mayor in his
home town of Itapeva, Brazil.
Read also : TEN WAYS OF DEALING WITH CHEATING IN
RELATIONSHIPS :THE HEALING PROCESS
AFTER AN AFFAIR “>

      Photos of paulo and Katyucia the shortest  couple in the world
Meanwhile Katyucia, 26, who has
achondroplasia dwarfism, owns a successful
beauty salon specially adapted for her
diminutive height..
Barcroft. The uttermost desire of this romantic couple is to win the guinness award record for the ” WORLD SMALLEST COUPLE”.

Read also : FUNNY THINGS THAT COUPLES FIGHT ABOUT
IN A RELATIONSHIP

     Photos of paulo and Katyucia the shortest  couple in the world

The couple first met on a social media website
about 10 years ago and started chatting on
MSN Messenger.

Ten ways of dealing with cheating in relationships :the healing process after an affair



Ten ways of dealing with cheating in relationships :the healing process

Cheating has led to the end of so many relationships and marriages because people find it difficult to forgive and move on with their life and relationships once infidelity is involved but the truth is that if you are willing to make the necesary sacrifices for your home, relationship, children…… Something can still be done. This post is not for everyone but if you partner has cheated on you and he or she has shown some remorse (and you are willing to sacrifice your pride and desire for revenge so that the relationship can go forward then you are at the right place because) Even broken hearts can be healed if the right steps are taken and some of the steps will be listed.
Cheating can unleash devastating
consequences on a couple and is oft-cited as
the ultimate deal breaker, beating out both
emotional unavailability and physical abuse.
Yet over half of married couples decide to
weather the damage together rather than split
up. Unfortunately, the healing process doesn’t
happen overnight, and even the most
committed couples can get waylaid by hurt
feelings, paralyzing guilt, and resentment.
1.
Honesty First
In the wake of discovering infidelity, Spring
asks the wronged party to detail their
grievances to their partner by articulating
an unsparing and emotionally raw
declaration. “It is vital that the hurt person
feels heard,” Spring emphasizes. “It’s easy
to feel crazy with grief, and they need to
understand that they have a language to
talk about their pain.”
2.
Bearing Witness
Just as importantly, the adulterous partner
must be prepared to face the heartache that
their infidelity has wrought. Many unfaithful
individuals feel paralyzed with guilt; they
see the affair as irreparable damage, and
mistakenly urge their partners to put the
pain behind them rather than take time to
grieve. Spring insists that the offender
“bear witness” to the pain they’ve caused
rather than defend or deflect the impact,
and pinpoints this willingness to take
responsibility as vital to the rebuilding of
trust.
3.
A Written Apology
After the adulterer has listened openly and
understandingly to their partner’s
declaration, Spring suggests that the
cheater paraphrase the account in their
own words. Spring then suggests that they
write out a detailed, specific letter to prove
they understand the sorrow they’ve caused.
And a miserly “I’m sorry” won’t cut it. “‘I’m
sorry’ goes about a quarter-inch deep,”
Spring says. “Verbal reassurances,
promising you won’t do it again, that
means nothing after cheating. They have to
prove they’ve heard and understood their
partner on the deepest level, and that
means citing very specific examples of how
they’ve hurt them and then taking actions
to prove they will not do so in the future.”
( similar posts to read a. Tips How to stop cheating in relationships
b. 5 reasons married men find it very difficult to
forgive a cheating spouse or woman

C. FIVE MAJOR CHEATING SIGNS IN
RELATIONSHIPS…

d. how to Stop cheating on your marriage partner )
4.
Avoid Cheap Forgiveness
Sometimes the desire to salvage the
relationship (and on the flip side, the fear
of losing a partner) overwhelms the
necessity to vent anger, and wronged
partners forgive before they’ve had a
chance to seethe. Spring calls this “cheap
forgiveness,” and finds this behavior in
spades among people who are more afraid
of being alone than staying with an
unfaithful partner. Not only do cheap
forgivers swindle themselves out of a
healthy grieving process, they set
themselves up for future infidelities by not
forcing their partners to understand their
pain.
5.
Sharing Responsibility
Even in relationships where only one person
has strayed, oftentimes both members bear
the blame for an affair. Spring
acknowledges that the unfaithful person
must own up to 100% of their guilt
(because “no one forces you to cheat”) but
the wronged party must also acknowledge
their own role in fostering an unhappy
union, however minuscule. The hurt person
must see how they had a hand in
facilitating the loneliness or isolation that
compelled their companion to have an
affair and take steps to ensure greater
emotional intimacy in the future.
http://www.rd.com/advice/relationships/10-steps-to-healing-a-relationship-after-an-affair/

15 most interesting psychology facts


  1. Most people have a favorite song because
    they associate it with an emotional event in
    their lives.

  2. Studies have shown that spending money
    on others provides more happiness than
    spending it on yourself.
    ( 9 common misconceptions about money

3.psychology has proven that certain religious
practices like prayer and attending services is
associated with lower psychological distress
levels.

  1. Music affects the way you perceive the way people perceive the world. The type of songs that you listen to on your playlist influences your subconscious and how you think .

  2. If you remember a past event, you’re
    actually remembering the last time you
    remembered it rather than the event itself.

  3. Intelligent people are more likely to
    underestimate themselves, while ignorant
    people are more likely to believe they’re
    brilliant.

  4. By surrounding yourself with happier
    people, you’ll become happier too. ( how to boost your happiness hormones )

  5. While money can buy happiness to an
    extent, studies show that after $75,000 per
    year, increased income does little to boost
    happiness.


9.women that are very brilliant find it very difficult finding a suitable mate. (
how To take care of your brain in other to increase intelligence )

10.good liars are better at detecting lies told by others .
common lies that women tell men in relationships


12.the more you talk about someone the more likely it is that you will fall in love with them.(
signs that show that she loves you

13.fact : people that pretend not to care are actually the ones that care the most

14. When you cry the first drop of tears will come from the right eye if its tears of joy and left if its tears of sorrow.

#love
15.another fascinating psychology fact is that it takes less than four minutes one second to fall in love (
9 signs that show she doesn’t really love you . )

a letter to virgin girls


My dear sister, I love you so much and I will
not allow you to make mistakes that will
frustrate you like other girls.
There are many things happening in the world
of relationship.
Many ladies are regretting a lot of things they
did in the past.
My dear sister don’t be a victim of dating,
many guys will promise you heaven and earth
just to sleep with you. They will promise you
that I can wait or date you without sex but
within some months in the relationship,they’ll
start begging for kiss,telling you nothing
wrong in kissing, some other time they will
start asking for romance that romancing is
not sex as a foolish teenager who don’t know
anything about love, you’ll start kissing and
romancing each other, one day he will surely
ask for sex by claiming that he has try all this
while and maybe you’ll open your leg and lose
your pride virginity but you’ll get dump within
months,you’ll end up regretting.
My dear if you’re still a VIRGIN and still want
keep it ,you don’t need a boyfriend. It not
compulsory to have a boyfriend.
Let me tell you something don’t know about
some guys after breaking your virginity,they’ll
not continue calling,texting and being serious
like before in your relationship,many men are
Pretenders and deceivers, my dear they don’t
really love as they claims everyday.
TO AVOID HAD I KNOW keep away from
dating,there is no gain in having a lover at
your age.
Do you want start saying men are wicked; all
men are dog;what men want in relationship is
sex; please avoid dating anyone to prevent
you for being use and dump.
Obey God words and stop listened to friends.
Don’t join this categories of women that men
are using to play like football .
You have two option ; choosing to do GOOD or
choosing to do BAD .
if you end up choosing wrong path # bad you’ll
surely pay for it. Some wicked men will
useless you and destroy your future.
Be wise today and you’ll be happy.
Your happiness is your hands now.
Stop being ignorance .
Thanks you for understanding my dear girl ,I
love you with love of christ and I want the
best for you.

the story of an aged mother with her son in a resturant


A son took his old mother to a Restaurant
for an
evening dinner. Mother being very old and
weak,
while eating, dropped food on her clothes.
Other
dinners watched her in disgust while her
son was
calm. After she finished eating, her son who
was
not at all embarrassed, quietly took her to
the
wash room, wiped the food particles,
removed
the stains, combed her hair and fitted her
spectacles firmly. When they came out, the
entire restaurant was watching them in
silence,
not able to grasp how someone could
embarrass
themselves publicly like that. The son settled
the
bill and started walking out with his mother.
At
that time, an old man amongst the dinners
called
out to the son and asked him, “Don’t you
think
you have left something behind?”. The son
replied, “No sir, I haven’t”. The old man
retorted,
“Yes, you have! You left a lesson for every
child
and hope for every mother” The restaurant
went
silent. A wish of every mum. My mum had to
bear the shame of me embarrassing her
when i
was little, i see no reason why i can’t do the
same for her. The love of parents to their
children as well as their labor to them will
never
be in vain. Oh God! bless our mothers and
grant
them sound health, pour Your unlimited
mercy
and favor to them in this present world and
Hereafter. Amen!

relationship, marriage, and love


Everyone desire a Lovely and understanding
partner who will appreciate every effort
displaced in their relationship.
Nobody want heartbreak when loving that
particular person who make you to do good
and bad things,when you see him,you find
yourself melting and unable to control
yourself. When loving the caring and
understanding girl that want the best for you.
We want to experience true love,

We have been hearing about it and each time
we think someone gonna give us that true love
, they end up hurting us.
Many time; you are tired of the word called
love but you find yourself falling in love with
another person.
Dear;
Remember not all relationship will lead to
marriage,don’t give up on word called LOVE
but give up on those who hurts you not
love,remember not love that hurt you,its
human being so stop saying I have giving up
on love.
Learn from your mistakes and amend things in
your life,sometimes we get dump because of
our bad attitudes,check yourself if you’re the
cause of your problem and amend it.
The bible says at SONG OF SOLOMON chapter
8 vs7 Many waters cannot quench love,neither
can floods drown it”.
True love come from God, you need God to be
able to experience true love. You’re seeking for
true love and you keep saying I don’t believe
in love again,don’t you know that there is
power in a spoken word,stop saying I don’t
believe in love or true love don’t exist again.
You need to believe on something before you
can have it.
I know a lot has happen to you in your past
relationship even me JOSHUA( SweetBoi JD, I
has been cheated,played,insulted,and dump
for no reason but I have realise not all
relationship will lead to marriage,today am
happy not even thinking about past things. In
this life,You can be happy if you want to be
happy all depend on you. Take any decision
that will make you happy,if being single will
make you happy. Be single.
Dear true love still exist but satan is the one
frustrating us, stop dancing to tone of
satan,start obeying God and you’ll definitely
taste true love .in

10 things you miss when you say no to premarital sex


Refusing to indulge in premarital sexual activities has been interpreted to have negative connotations but when you say no to sex although you are missing some things but its for the best!
A lot of people might have told you that you
miss a lot for not
having “sex”, the answer is capital “yes” You
miss a lot and would
continue missing them:

  1. You miss contracting HIV/AIDS
  2. You miss unwanted pregnancy.
  3. You miss being unwanted husband/wife
  4. You miss having sexually transmitted
    disease.
  5. You miss having unwanted child.
  6. You miss being a school dropout.
  7. You miss having a broken home.
  8. You miss making God and your parents
    sad.
  9. You miss barrenness due to abortions.
  10. You miss having a destroyed career
    prospects
    and lastly, you miss going to hell.
    Have you seen that you really miss a lot by
    not having sex?
    My fellow youths, your life worth
    more than five minutes enjoyment that can
    destroy your
    life forever.
    Preserve your body not just for your future
    husband or wife
    but for mighty God. So we shall continue to
    miss
    every negativity in our lives
    …….

what a young teenage girl learnt from losing her virginity


In our society today virginity is underated, some look down on teenage girls that are still virgins especially when they start getting older but still prefer to remain virgins, some girls hate to see other girls that are virgins especially if they have lost their own but if you are still a virgin be proud of it because no matter what this jet age thinks virginity is still very important!

Below is a post of what a young innocent girl learnt from losing her virginity.

  1. Many teenage girls sleep with guys because
    they are trying to find love, to find self-worth.
    But the catch is that the more guys they sleep
    with, the less self-worth they had.
  2. Many girls think that if they really care
    about guys, s’εx will bring them closer
    together. Indeed, sεx creates a bond. However,
    80 percent of the time, the physical int!macy
    of first sεxμal relationship won’t last more
    than six months.
  3. Couples who want what is best for their
    relationship or future marriage will have the
    patience to wait.
  4. Most of the time, when a girl gives away
    her virg!nity, she assumes the relationship will
    last forever. But study of more than 10,000
    women shows that when a girl loses her virg!
    nity at that age at 14, she’ll probably have
    about thirteen more lifetime sεxμal partners.
  5. Teen s’εx frequently causes tension within
    families because of the dishonesty that
    usually accompanies the hidden int!macies.
    Relationships with friends are often strained,
    and when things turn sour, the gossip and
    social problems often become unbearable.
  6. Everyone talks about how hard it is to say
    no to s’εx, but no one tells you how hard it is
    when you say yes.
  7. It is dangerous for a teenage girl to be
    sεxμally active. Because a teenage girl’s
    reproductive system is still immature, she is
    very susceptible to sεxμally transmitted
    diseases.
  8. In fact, early sεxμal activity is the number
    one risk factor for cervical cancer, and the
    second is multiple sεxμal partners. A girl’s
    body, like her heart, is not designed to handle
    multiple sεxμal partners.
    9.While a girl might plan on slεεping with
    only one guy, she could be exposing herself to
    the STDs of hundreds of people through a
    single act of intεrcoμrsε. Here’s how:
    Scientists studied the sεxμal activity of a
    public high school of about one thousand
    students. About half (573) of the students had
    been sεxμally active, and most of them had
    only been with one partner. However, when the
    scientists
    tracked the web of sεxμal activity among the
    students, it was discovered that more than
    half of the sεxμally active teens—without
    knowing it were linked together in a network
    of 288 partners within the school! So if a girl
    slept with a guy from this school, theoretically
    she could be in bεd with one-fourth of the
    entire student body.
    10.The emotional side effects of premarital
    s’εx are also damaging to a young woman.
    One of the most common consequences of
    teenage sεxμal activity is depression. Girls
    who are sεxμally active are more than three
    times as likely to be depressed as girls who
    are abstinent. In fact, the condition has
    become so predictable that the Journal of
    Preventive Medicine recommends to doctors:
    “[Girls who are engaging in] sεxμal intεrcoμrsε
    should be screened for depression, and
    provided with anticipatory guidance about the
    mental health risks of these behaviours. ”Even
    if a girl experiments with s’εx once, research
    shows an increased risk of depression. Also,
    consider the fact that the rate of suicide
    attempts for sεxμally active girls (aged twelve
    to sixteen) is six times higher than the rate for
    virg!ns.
  9. Unfortunately, many young women search
    for meaning only in relationships with guys,
    instead of with God. It is not uncommon for a
    girl to have s’εx in order to make a guy like
    her more or to encourage him to stay with her.
    She may compromise her standards because
    she is afraid of never being loved. Once he
    leaves her, though, an emotional divorce takes
    place. A person’s heart is not made to be that
    close to a person and then separated.
  10. Since teenage sεxμal relationships rarely
    last, the girl’s sense of self-worth is often
    damaged. She may conclude that if she looked
    better, he would have stayed longer. This
    mentality can lead to harmful practices, such
    as eating disorders. Or the disappointment she
    feels may drive her into a state of self-hatred.
    Some young women even begin to hurt their
    own bodies in an attempt to numb the
    emotional pain. Such practices never solve the
    problems, though. If she wants to be loved,
    she needs to begin by loving herself.
  11. In her heart, a girl who has been used
    knows it. However, she may immediately jump
    into another sεxμal relationship to escape the
    hurt. If she tries to boost her self-esteem by
    giving guys what they want, then her self-
    worth often ends up depending upon those
    kinds of relationships. Her development as a
    woman is stunted because without chastity
    she does not know how to express affection,
    appreciation, or attraction for a guy without
    implying something sεxμal. She may even
    conclude that a guy does not love her unless
    he makes sεxμal advances toward her. She
    knows that s’εx exists without int!macy, but
    she may forget that int!macy can exist without
    s’εx. A girl on this track usually feels
    accepted initially, but that acceptance lasts
    only as long as the physical plεasμrε.
  12. Such a lifestyle will also take its toll on
    her ability to bond. Here’s why: Sharing the
    gift of s’εx is like putting a piece of tape on
    another person’s arm. The first bond is strong,
    and it hurts to remove it. Shift the tape to
    another person’s arm, and the bond will still
    work, but it will be easier to remove. Each
    time this is done, part of each person remains
    with the tape. Soon it is easy to remove
    because the residue from the various arms
    interferes with the tape’s ability to stick.
  13. The same is true in relationships, because
    neurologists have discovered that previous
    sεxμal experiences can interfere with one’s
    ability to bond with future partners. This does
    not mean that if a person is not a virg!n on
    the wedding night, he or she will be unable to
    bond with a spouse. It simply means that
    when we follow God’s plan, we have the most
    abundant life possible. But when we turn from
    his designs and break his commandments,
    often we are the ones who feel broken
    afterwards.
    16 Spiritual. Sin cuts us off from God, and this
    is the most serious consequence of premarital
    s’εx. After going too far, many of us know all
    too well the cloud of guilt that weighs on our
    hearts. The solution is not to kill our
    conscience but to follow it to freedom. It is
    calling us, not condemning us. Provided we
    repent, God will be there to welcome us home
    and let us start over.
    What this all means is that our bodies, our
    hearts, our relationships, and our souls are
    not made for premarital s’εx. We should wait
    to have s’εx.

Signs that show that she has fallen in love with you


You may not know it but there are many signs that show if someone has fallen in love with you or not. These signs vary because of the wide range of personality traits in the world but when it comes to matters of the heart the difference is little because when people fall in love with you they tend to display some a fixed set of emotions or character that is the same all over the world because love is a universal language of all Human beings . Below is a list of signs that show that she has fallen in love with you!

  1. She gives you attention just like a mother toward her child
    It is natural that every woman has motherly affection. Therefore, when she falls in love, this kind of maternal behavior will arise unconsciously. Do not be surprised if she suddenly becomes very concerned, even nags you with a lot of small things. She may suddenly feel uneasy to see the stains on your clothes, or feel worried when you are eating too much junk food. Try to respond heir attention with gratitude. Do things that she suggests to show that you take her advice seriously. Give her little compliment and by saying, “Wow, you could be a good mother.”

  2. She looks happy when she is with you:
    This is another definite sign that will show that she has fallen in love with you, A woman would show a bright facial expression when she is with her loved ones. Just try to observe her eyes, smile, and her gestures. If she looks more cheerful and her eyes shine brighter it is likely a sign that she enjoys to be at your side. Note also if she talks and laughs a lot, it can be a significant sign that she loves you.

  3. Notice the intensity of her eye contact
    Women who are in love will try to steal a glance at your eyes. In some cases for a shy woman, her face will turn red and abruptly turned away when you realize that she was watching over your face. Try also to look at her straight in the eyes when conversing. If you feel there is some kinds of electricity that goes behind your back while looking into her eyes, it is most likely that the chemistry between two of you has been established.trust me once you notice this that means that she has fallen for you but beware because some bad girls can fake some of the signs here but when you use your discretion you will you the real truth.

  4. She suddenly becomes unusually shy
    This sign is a common physical reaction when a woman is in love. Suddenly, she will become more timid when it comes to interacting with you.
    This attitude on some women usually followed by attitude to tend to avoid you in the early period of falling in love. Some women also tend to start avoiding the one they love at the initial stage for no reason.

  5. Exhibiting childish behavior in front of you
    In some cases, there are some women who actually act childish when they are in love. They will not hesitate to raise their tune of their voice, scream, jump around, or giggle loudly to draw your attention. Note also their speaking style, which at first glance would sound warmer just like a small child.

  6. Gifts
    Giving a gift shows that a woman considers you as someone special. In any of her gifts to you, -whether it is birthday gifts, Valentine gifts, or simply a souvenir from her trip- there is affection and intimacy from her. But make no mistake, not all gifts that are given by a woman signifies that she is in love with you. Try to think, whether the gifts that you received are special, or just same gifts that she gave to her other friends. Note also her attitude when she gives it to you

  7. She asks a lot of questions about your life
    If a woman is attracted to you, then she would likely ask a lot of questions. Those questions ranging from small things such as your hobbies and favorite activities, to bigger matters such as your future plan. She would also demand further explanation if she feels that your answers do not satisfy her curiosity.
    When you realize that a woman is attracted to you and starts to ask a lot of questions,Don’t lie just to impress her, as it has bad impact in the long run.

  8. She takes the initiative to start a conversation
    Usually under a normal conditions, men is the one who takes the initiative in a conversation.
    A woman who is in love would continue to spend a lot of time talking to you. They want to be in the conversation as long as possible. Therefore, when the conversation stops, she will try to find a new topic so that both of you can continue talking.

  9. She shows some interest toward you hobby and favorite activities
    You might encounter a situation when suddenly a woman starts to listen to the songs that you like or ask a lot of questions about your hobbies. She also asks you to be involved in your favorite activities and happily shows enthusiasm towards them. Be cautious boys, this might be a sign that she is in love with you.
    If a woman suddenly shows interest in the game that you play, your favorite TV shows, or activity that you usually do, it is likely that she wants to spend some time with you.

  10. She tries to impress you physically by dressing better,
    If you realize that a woman tries hard to impress you with their dresses, hairstyle, accessories, and her physical attractions, it is likely she wants to get your attention.
    If you are aware of this fact, do not miss the opportunity to compliment her looks. Give compliment to her dresses, or her new hair style. Make her feels that her effort to impress you is paid-off.

Source:handsomebeauty’s blog

Make sure you read the following posts

1
advice from a mother to spinsters

2

relationship advice from a mother to her teenage daughter


  1. The wife that wins all arguments with her
    husband is not wise. The home is not a law
    court.
  2. The wife that uses sex as a weapon in the
    home – placing embargo and using sex as
    punishment – lacks wisdom.
  3. The wife that uses the modern trends and
    laws of “women’s rights” to insult or ridicule
    her husband simply makes a fool of herself.
  4. A woman that makes her home devoid of
    peace through bickering, nagging and
    quarrels needs help. A man should be eager
    to run away from office to be at home, for that
    should be the safest and coziest place on
    earth for him.
  5. Modern-day equality in marriage does not
    mean competition. It simply means
    partnership. Taking advantage of such
    equality to turn around and become the de
    facto head of the home and oppress the man
    is tantamount to playing with fire. If you
    destroy your home, soon you will be the boss
    of an empty home.
  6. A wise wife makes the man feel so good
    that he assumes that he is the head. Once he
    gets that feeling, the woman gently wields her
    power and the head actually turns to wherever
    the neck wants without a protest.
  7. A wife that does not pull herself away from
    friends’ influence and advice or even from the
    control of her mother and father will have
    herself to blame.
  8. When a man is looking for a wife, he
    bypasses women of different shapes and sizes
    to choose a wife. But soon after childbirth,
    many women hide under the excuse of
    childbirth to let go of themselves. Many stop
    bothering about their looks, shape, dressing,
    etc. Within 5 years of marriage, people start
    wondering if the wife is the man’s aunt, even
    though she is 7 years younger. Her defence is
    that if he truly loves her, he should love her
    the way she is, but when looking for a wife, he
    saw people like the present YOU and ignored
    them and settled for the former YOU. Today,
    you go to bed smelling of onions…. You go to
    bed wearing grandmothers’ clothes. Why are
    you playing with your marriage? Love is not
    about looks – we know. But looks enhances
    love and marriage. There is a difference
    between someone disfiguring herself and the
    person being disfigured by an accident.
    Please don’t be complacent. As hard as it
    may be, work on looking like you were when
    he first saw you and began the chase.
  9. If every night you are tired, sleepy, sore,
    down with headache or fever, “not in the
    mood,” you are a joker, a serious comedian!
  10. If your children suddenly become more
    important to you than your husband, you
    need prayers.
  11. If you assume that as the woman, only
    you need to be pampered and fussed over
    while the man is a stone that has no
    emotions, you need to be pitied.
  12. A woman that has the mind of a wife
    does not excite her husband. Wives are
    usually complacent and presumptuous. A wife
    must strive to have the mind of a fiancee. A
    fiancee is always nicer, sweeter, more loving
    and always thinking of ways to wow her
    sweetheart; a fiancee does not try to win all
    arguments, does not call the man a “useless
    man”, is not careless about her looks or
    dressing, always smiles and laughs with the
    man, sends the man sweet messages and
    calls, etc.
  13. A woman must never be tired of praying
    for her husband. You must be his most
    trusted confidant and encourager.
    Watch out for words from a father to his son
    about marriage

# Relationship advice for the young and the old


Everybody listen to this advice. It’s very easy to fall in love and even easier to
fall out of love. Indeed love is a beautiful thing
but nomatter how deeply you love someone. .
1. Never agree to Enter into a blood covenant
with someone all in the name of love or you
will live to regret it. Covenant is stronger than
you think, its even more deadly when blood is
attached to it. It has spiritual and PHYSICAL
IMPLICATIONS in both the short run and the
Long run. Don’t do it. Take this relationship advice.
2.never agree to marry someone if the gap will
be more than 5 years before the marriage
ceremony takes place. The longer it takes the
more the risks attached to it. Guys don’t
promise any girl marriage if you are not
serious about it. This is for both the young and the old. Dont neglect it,
3.students especially young secondary school girls,
you don’t have any business with marriage.
Run away from any boy that comes to you
with a promise of marriage. Guys if you are
still in school, i.e if you are not yet working,
dont propose to anybody
. Its stupidity of the highest order, make money and make sure that you are old enough
4.dont Enter into a marital relationship with a
boy or girl that wants to Enter into school
especially the higher institution or someone
that wants to travel overseas to stay for a
Long time there to avoid stories that touches
the heart unless you are strong enough to
bear anything that results from it.

9 signs that shows that a woman is not really in love with you


  1. CONSTANTLY ASKING FOR FAVORS: You
    know, this is not even about girls but trust
    nobody who constantly ask you for favors,
    they are only taking advantage. In the case of
    girls, if she constantly asks for your help
    especially when it comes to finances and
    buying stuff for her, it’s just clear that she is
    in for the goodies, don’t be fooled bro .. some
    even ask for favors that Bill Gates daughter
    won’t even ask her
    father.
  2. SHE NEVER RETURN YOUR CALLS: She
    barely return your text messages and missed
    calls and when she does, it’s mostly the ‘k’,
    ‘lol’ ‘yes’ kind of replies after taking days to
    respond. I need not tell you that she’s not
    interested in you.
  3. SHE ALWAYS COMES OUT WITH YOU WITH
    HER GIRLS: This is a clear sign to alert you
    that this girl don’t want alone time, she’s only
    there to please her friends or make her friends
    enjoy a bit of the goodies you are offering.
    Look elsewhere or grab one of her friends if
    you can. Some girls might even bring male
    friends just to piss you off, while you foot the
    bills.
  4. SHE NEVER TAKES PICTURES WITH YOU: If
    you are the guy always taking photos of the
    girl or if she prefer taking photos of the food,
    drink, gift you bought for her instead, then my
    bro, be prepared to move on. You don’t matter
    like that. Try go through her social media/
    phone if there’s no photo of you, think twice.
    Some people might say it doesn’t matter but
    trust me every girl that loves you will share
    beautiful moments you share together or want
    to take pictures with you, every minute you
    spend together. Don’t ignore this, it’s a
    cemented fact.
  5. SHE INTRODUCES YOU TO HER FRIENDS AS
    A ‘FRIEND’ : I was once asked why do guys
    hate when they are introduced as a friend, and
    my answer was why not? Ladies should know
    that this particular thing hurts more than
    being shot, especially when you are so into
    her and in your head she’s the love of your
    life. That is clear that she’s not in a
    relationship with you, at least to her friends or
    whoever you got introduced to.
  6. SHE FLIRTS WITH YOUR FRIENDS OR FIND
    YOUR FRIENDS WAY COOLER: The worst that
    could happen is introducing your girl to your
    friends and she start to get flirty with them. It
    could be for the fun of it but if she’s usually
    bored around you but come alive when she’s
    with you and your friends, try do your
    homework well or simply leave her to one of
    your friends, not an easy decision though but
    it will save you time to move on.
  7. SHE NEVER COMMENTS ON HOW YOU
    LOOK : Everybody like compliments but if even
    in your best, she never say, “you look good” or
    “I like what you are wearing” then the answer
    is simple, ‘SHE DON’T CARE’. It’s straight like
    that. Don’t sweat it.
  8. ACTS FRIENDLY WHENEVER SHE IS NEED :
    She usually calls you all the sweet names,
    ‘boo boo’, hun, bla bla … only when she needs
    a favor. Do you still need to be told bro?
  9. SHE FINDS YOU BORING : This is how to
    tell if a girl thinks you are boring, she don’t
    laugh to your jokes, she’s constantly on her
    phone when you are with her, if you don’t
    break the silence, she don’t make any effort to
    make a convo, she don’t even shout or
    singalong to her favorite song when you play
    it in her presence, bro, you are trying too
    much, go for someone who appreciate you,
    especially if you don’t
    think you are that boring.
  10. SHE NEVER WANT TO GET INTIMATE WITH
    YOU
    http://www.nairaland.com/1576339/10-proven-signs-lady-aint

reasons why you should marry a working class lady as a wife


As for me nomatter how beautiful, classy, or educated a girl is :i have sworn never to marry any lady that is not working class,

… 1. Good Money Management Skill.
A working class lady better understand how
hard it is to make money. Yes, she buys shoes
and some times engage in profligate spending
but with caution. She tries to keep a part for
the rainy weeks, LOL. With this attitude of
hers, you can hand your ATM to her without
worries
2. Maturity
Maturity is built in her through the stress at
work. Though girls will be girls but there are
some things you won’t see her get involved in.
Imagine her working and schooling at same
time, you’ll hardly even see her in social
networks sef. How we need mature ladies in
the dating game and not just recharge card
beggers.
3. Her Generosity Is Heightened
It is expected she has conquered the “Me
Alone” attitude because a part of her salary
goes to her family, supposedly. Some times,
she sends some to her siblings. Most times,
she is left with a little. At those moments, her
dp will change, “Family is everything”. True!
Those guys in her work place wondering,
“what’s she doing with her money?”. Now you
know. You can be sure she will be of financial
help to both in-laws.
4. She Has A ‘better’ Idea On What She Really
Need In Her Man.
She has met several kinds of guys, so her
choosing you is more of her “last resort”.
Having dated “many guys”, you’re one lucky
dude . o:
You can’t count on an undergraduate that
much. She still has many choices to make:
Uni, Masters, NYSC, Work place etc. Oh mehn!
5. Financial Assistance
She can be of great help when the burden of
pre-marriage activities come knocking. Also,
she won’t just come into your house with her
GMG, but with some of her things too that will
benefit all. It’s not compulsory but it’s
relieving, you know.
6. Less Time for Casual/Childish Stuff
It’s hard to find a working class Lady who is
engrossed with work find time to live
carelessly (partying). It might exist but only in
rare cases. More often than not, she spends
time with her closest besties not with any T, D
& H. If she is ALWAYS on Social Network,
forget it. At least, you can tell she has a
dream, a passion, a drive. Even if she is less
busy, she tries to perfect her tailoring, dancing
or designing skill. She hates being idle. Above
all, childish stuff like being the FTC or making
money out of guys on internet or real life
disgusts her.
7. Work Exposure
Having to work with other married colleague of
hers, she gets to know the real needs of every
man thus coming into marriage with some
form of relevant information. Just hope she
doesn’t meet the wrong women sha

signs that show that the girl that you want to marry is a prostitute/was a prostitute


So here are some signs you must
observe:-
1. She’s obsessed about money and
excessively materialistic:
The classic prostitute mind set: she talks
money, thinks money, eats money,
sleeps money. This woman can easily be
seduced with offers of money, and
sometimes even asks for it. She never
refuses offers of cash gifts. Money will
open her legs and give her gina tingles
faster than any other thing.
2. She makes it a routine to request for
something (maybe monetary) before
giving you sx:
This type of girls are so cunning in their
dealing, when they first starts a date
with a potential costumer, they will give
you frequent great s
x(they are very
good in bed) without requesting anything
in return at least for a week or less.
When she has succeeded in blowing off
your mind in bed ( that period you starts
behaving like a small pikin) ,then
gradually she reduce the fun ( to make
you beg for it) to a reluctant
transactional chore she performs for you
only when you have done something for
her first (usually something of monetary
value). sx now becomes a reward in the
relationship.
3. She frequently uses the word Ashawo,
slut and w***e to describe her friends or
women she doesn’t like:
If you have been to a brothel and
observe where prostitutes quarrel or
fight, one word you always hear them
call themselves is “Ashawo” . This is
because what they does in their life
relives in their mind. She’s simply
projecting onto others what she has
done and been called before by others.
4 . She openly tells you she doesn’t trust
her friends around you , but still doesn’t
want to leave them:
Birds of same feathers flies together. She
gets upset and paranoid(ask a lot of
questions) anytime you tell her you met
one of her girlfriends. She is only trying
to protect her money making machine
from her fellow tigers (they are all in
same business). To her friends she will
be like “go get your own maga Dam”.
5. She boasts and prides herself of her
sexual skills and how men are attracted
to her and also she is openly jealous of
beautiful women:
She knew that the only thing she is good
at is s
x, and she will always brag about
it , like how all her ex are still calling
and begging her because of it. She says
all this to upgrade her low self esteem
and to make you feel jealous of losing
her while she milks you dry. If you are
observant enough you will also notice
her envy against younger and more
beautiful women whom she tries to
demean.
6. She tends to be usually ‘busy’ within
the week without explaining what ‘busy’
is:
‘Busy’ is the code word for booked or
reserved, a term commonly used by
prostitutes. A normal girl will rather tell
you directly what she’s doing to
postpone plans, instead of using the
ambiguous, business-like ‘busy’ , when
we all know she doesn’t work or go to
school during the weekend.
7. She is known by multiple names
among people. [/b]Her guy friends call
her with different names, or she asks you
to address her by a name which is not
her real name. Also: she has multiple cell
numbers.
If your “Chizzy” is called as “Rossy” by
some other guy and called as Jessy by
another, it means that those names are
her work alias. Runs girls doesn’t want
to be known by their real name to protect
their identity. Multiple cell numbers are
obvious: one is for personal or casual
use, the other one is for official or
‘work’ (prostitution) use.
[b]8. You happen to find stuff like wigs
of several colours, length and styles in
her wardrobe:
Who carries or keeps stuff like that? Only
experienced professionals. Wigs are to
camouflage her identity when in club
house or other places she normally
hangout to catch potential clients.
9. You observe she has some tiny (razor-
like) markings close to her va*ina:
Professional runs girl ( just like
professional armed robbers) often seek
spiritual protections and prosperity in
their work. This diabolical protection is
mostly done by cutting a slight fresh
close to the vagina, through which
concoctions are insert. Some of this
works like a charm in a man once you
get in, you can’t leave until you are
milked dry, while some maybe for
protection from ritualist , occultist e.t.c
10. She has a poor or average income,
but she manages to afford a
comparatively affluent lifestyle without
family support:
Who pays for it? Is she surviving on a
financial loan?
11. She constantly reminds you of the
things that she’s done for you:
Especially of the sex she provided for
you. What else can she do for you except
provide her ‘special’ orifices for you
on demand? For her you should be
grateful for the skilled services she
provided for you, since she has done a
better job than what her competitors
would her given you.
12. She berates and criticizes girls who
date men below them in social and
economic status:
You hear them say things like ‘why on
earth will a fine girl like that be dating
that small ratchet boy’. Ask her what’s
her business, her business is that it’s a
waste of resources to see a poor guy
digging that money making pot for free,
when their are big men out there ready
to pay for it.
13. She rates men on their income,
social status and influence (disregarding
character):
If she idolizes rich and ‘successful’ men
of questionable character, it shows
where her priorities lie. A little attention
from such men is enough for her to pull
down her panties for them.
14. In public even when she is with you,
she still keep staring at other men:
Just as some guys (even when with their
babes) still stares at other women butt
(especially when it’s bigger than their
babes), that’s same way a covert
prostitute even when with her so called
boyfriend stares at other guy she think
are richer. The only different is that the
she stares the potential maga straight
into his eyes, and hoping the dude
catches the gaze (signal)
15. She despises poverty, and more so of
men who have low paying jobs:
She easily get annoyed and abusive
while dealing with poor men ( taxi driver,
barrow pusher, e.t.c ). Her hatred of
poverty reminds her of her own
desperate circumstances at one time.
Even though women are hypergamous by
nature, most women don’t despise poor
men as long as he is working to earn
something. Prostitutes however see no
‘customer’ potential in such men.
If your Girlfriend exhibits any of the
above Listed attitude, My Brother run
Drop your comment.
http://www.mediahoarders.com.ng/news/15-
signs-that-show-you-are-dating-a-retired-
prostitute-runs-girl

how to know if your girl doesn’t love you anymore


Warning Signs That Your Girl Doesn’t Love
You Anymore.
In most cases when woman is no longer
interested in a relationship she doesn’t want
to be the one toend it. But even when she is
already made the decision to break it up, she
will take some time to give you some signs to
prepare you, before she tells you. This is time
to take a look at your relationship.
1. This is probably the most classic subtle
signal of all—-her life become too hectic. She
hasn’t picked up the phone for a few days and
when she does, she is busy and pretending
that she doesn’t have time to met you. This
isn’t necessarily a sign that it is over, but if
you are used to meet her frequently then there
is something wrong.
2. She’s secretive and no longer wants to tell
you where she has been or who was on the
phone. She may start to flirt and are open to
others.
3. She doesn’t want you to touch her
anymore…she cringe… That is to say, there is
emotional distance between you and her. You
feel like strangers. Sex doesn’t feel as intimate
as earlier on in the relationship.
4. She starts to argue. Is she causing
arguments over silly little things? If everything
you do or say isn’t right to her anymore and
she thinks all that goes wrong is your fault.
Then you can start to worry.
5. She starts staying away from you as much
as possible. Eventually, when she decided to
spend some time with you she keeps looking
around to find something to do or someone
else to talk to. However, when a woman is
interested, she puts in the effort by giving you
her full attention.
6. She refuses the presents you make. Women
love to get presents, so if she turns yours
down, she can feel guilty because she is
thinking to break up with you, especially if you
know she was about to buy that thing for
herself.
7. Don’t forget that women love to talk. If she
doesn’t ask you questions and shows no
interest in what you have to say and when you
ask her questions she limits her answers to
“yes” and “no”. She has a problem now. Can it
be the relationship with you? She is impatient
with you.
8. She talks about divorce or break-up of other
people’s relationship, as a positive thing.
Maybe a friend of her just has broken up with
her boyfriend and now she is doing much
better…!….. …..hmmmm.

stop trying to make any girl that displays any of this signs to love you


   guys stop trying to make any girl that displays any
of this signs to love you
When I see men running after girls in the name of love I start shaking my head in pity because that a strong sign of immaturity. pls guys if you are running after a girl and she starts displaying any of the following signs that will be listed here then stop wasting your Time, go and look for another profitable thing to do with your life for heaven’s sake!
.
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1. CONSTANTLY ASKING FOR FAVORS: You
know, this is not even about girls but trust
nobody who constantly ask you for favors,
they are only taking advantage. In the case of
girls, if she constantly asks for your help
especially when it comes to finances and
buying stuff for her, it’s just clear that she is
in for the goodies, don’t be fooled bro .. some
even ask for favors that Bill Gates daughter
won’t even ask her
father.
2. SHE NEVER RETURN YOUR CALLS: She
barely return your text messages and missed
calls and when she does, it’s mostly the ‘k’,
‘lol’ ‘yes’ kind of replies after taking days to
respond. I need not tell you that she’s not
interested in you.
3. SHE ALWAYS COMES OUT WITH YOU WITH
HER GIRLS: This is a clear sign to alert you
that this girl don’t want alone time, she’s only
there to please her friends or make her friends
enjoy a bit of the goodies you are offering.
Look elsewhere or grab one of her friends if
you can. Some girls might even bring male
friends just to piss you off, while you foot the
bills.
Read also : 10 signs Signs that show that you are not
really in love

4. SHE NEVER TAKES PICTURES WITH YOU: If
you are the guy always taking photos of the
girl or if she prefer taking photos of the food,
drink, gift you bought for her instead, then my
bro, be prepared to move on. You don’t matter
like that. Try go through her social media/
phone if there’s no photo of you, think twice.
Some people might say it doesn’t matter but
trust me every girl that loves you will share
beautiful moments you share together or want
to take pictures with you, every minute you
spend together. Don’t ignore this, it’s a
cemented fact.
5. SHE INTRODUCES YOU TO HER FRIENDS AS
A ‘FRIEND’ : I was once asked why do guys
hate when they are introduced as a friend, and
my answer was why not? Ladies should know
that this particular thing hurts more than
being shot, especially when you are so into
her and in your head she’s the love of your
life. That is clear that she’s not in a
relationship with you, at least to her friends or
whoever you got introduced to.

Read also : how to know if your girl doesn’t love you
anymore

6. SHE FLIRTS WITH YOUR FRIENDS OR FIND
YOUR FRIENDS WAY COOLER: The worst that
could happen is introducing your girl to your
friends and she start to get flirty with them. It
could be for the fun of it but if she’s usually
bored around you but come alive when she’s
with you and your friends, try do your
homework well or simply leave her to one of
your friends, not an easy decision though but
it will save you time to move on.
7. SHE NEVER COMMENTS ON HOW YOU
LOOK : Everybody like compliments but if even
in your best, she never say, “you look good” or
“I like what you are wearing” then the answer
is simple, ‘SHE DON’T CARE’. It’s straight like
that. Don’t sweat it.
  guys     stop trying to make any girl that displays any
of this signs to love you
Read also : relationship advice from a mother to her
teenage daughter on love issues

  1. ACTS FRIENDLY WHENEVER SHE IS NEED :
    She usually calls you all the sweet names,
    ‘boo boo’, hun, bla bla … only when she needs
    a favor. Do you still need to be told bro?
  2. SHE FINDS YOU BORING : This is how to
    tell if a girl thinks you are boring, she don’t
    laugh to your jokes, she’s constantly on her
    phone when you are with her, if you don’t
    break the silence, she don’t make any effort to
    make a convo, she don’t even shout or
    singalong to her favorite song when you play
    it in her presence, bro, you are trying too
    much, go for someone who appreciate you,
    especially if you don’t
    think you are that boring.

read this to know if you are dating the wrong person


Relationships can be full of uncertainties? you may be hooking up with the wrong guy or girl: if that’s true then you need to determine of person you are dating is the right or wrong person for you with the following.
..
1. You feel like you have to wear a mask.
If you’re putting on a song-and-dance in
an elaborate attempt to impress your
partner, you might be dating the wrong
person.
Your partner should love you as you are.
Does it feel like they are trying to mold
you into an entirely different person? If
so, it might be time to let them go.
2. They think the world revolves around
them.
If it seems like your partner is more
interested in how you fit in their world
than they are with your individual needs,
you might be dating the wrong person.
Even though you just went to his
parents’ house for Thanksgiving last
year, he gets upset when you suggest
visiting your parents this year. Despite
the fact that she knows you haven’t had
a night out with the guys in over a
month because work’s been so busy, she
pitches a fit because you’re not spending
time with her. If your partner’s words
and actions scream, “ME-ME-ME,” you
should find someone who appreciates
your needs (and not only theirs).
3. Your friends and family haven’t met
them.
If you haven’t introduced your partner to
your friends or family despite spending a
decent amount of time together, you
might be dating the wrong person.
Let’s just face it, shall we? There are
only a few reasons why you wouldn’t
introduce your partner to your friends or
family, and none of them are pretty. If
you’re so embarrassed by this person
that you don’t want to invite them into
your social circles, do everyone a favor
and pull the plug.
4. They don’t really listen to you.
If your partner is always waiting for their
turn to speak, you might be dating the
wrong person.
They always go off on tangents about
their day at work, but never seem
interested in yours. They always suggest
where they’d like to go, but never seem
to care what you think. If your partner
does a whole lot of speaking (but never
listens), you might want to find someone
not so self-centered to share your life
with.
5. Hanging out with them drains you.
If spending time with your partner
exhausts you, you might be dating the
wrong person.
Even the best of relationships include
the occasional fight, but this should be
the exception, not the norm. You should
feel happy and alive with your partner,
not sad and stuck.
6. You avoid difficult conversations.
If every difficult chat gets swept under
the rug, you might be dating the wrong
person.
Should you bring up things like politics,
religion, favorite sexual positions, or
your desire to have five children on the
first date? Probably not. But as the
weeks and months and years go on, it
becomes more and more important to
have those tough (but necessary)
conversations. If you want to have
children but your partner doesn’t, you
might have a problem. If your religion is
a top priority but your partner is
anything but a devout follower, you need
to have a chat. If there’s something the
matter, say so (because no, your partner
isn’t a psychic).
7. Your relationship is their one and only
interest
If your partner has no hobbies or
interests outside of your relationship,
you might be dating the wrong person.
Who would want to date a person who
isn’t passionate about anything? Tread
carefully if your partner has zero life
goals, because relationships with a
person lacking ambition are anything
but fulfilling. And that brings us to…
8. They expect 24/7 companionship.
If your partner is so clingy you want to
scream, you might be dating the wrong
person.
It is unhealthy and unwise to expect a
person to be your singular source of
happiness. Alone time isn’t merely just
something that would be nice to have,
but rather a necessity for your mental
health.
9. You never feel like you’re “good
enough.”
If your partner never has anything nice to
say, you might be dating the wrong
person.
No matter how hard you try, you feel like
you can’t do anything right. No matter
how much you do, you feel like you
always have to prove yourself. No matter
how much you love them, you feel like
they don’t return the feeling.
10. You can’t imagine a future together
without laughing or crying.
If the thought of a life-long commitment
makes you want to curl up in a ball and
weep, you might be dating the wrong
person.
I know the thought of being alone might
not appeal to you, but staying in a
relationship that is destined for failure is
as silly as it gets. If you have no future
with this person, end the relationship
and find someone you can be happy
with.
Are you dating the right person? I hope
this list helps you find out. Leave a
comment with any additional signs you
think we should be on the look-out for.
http://www.naijanewsrave.com/10-alarming-
signs-you-are-dating-another-womans-boo/